In our culture, we’ve been taught that life is supposed to be hard. The narrative of the American dream always includes a long period of hard work and struggle and heartbreak before success. We are taught that the struggle is the path to success. If you consider the rags-to-riches stories we are so familiar with in our culture, it sounds as though people just kept pushing and struggling until they finally got their big break. We tend to latch on to the parts about homelessness, rejection, abuse, and bankruptcy because it seems unbelievable that the wildly successful stars and businesspeople we know today could have ever experienced that level of adversity.